The Club for millionaire and wealthy people

Two top New York matchmakers share on finding love with successful singles in the New Year!

When people talk about millionaires, many may think about the lavish lifestyle, luxurious vacations and designer clothes. But a happy and long lasting relationship requires more than money.

So how do millionaires make the most important decisions in their personal lives? Lots of successful and wealthy singles use matchmaking services.

New York was recently named the best city for singles, and we know two top New York matchmakers who provide some great -- often surprising, but helpful -- tips on how to snag a rich one.

We sit down for a Q&A with both of them.

Siggy Flicker, MQI

Lisa Clampitt, VIP Life Siggy Flicker is the head matchmaker for Model Quality Introductions in the New York tri-state area with more than a decade of matchmaking experience. Lisa Clampitt is the president of VIP Life and co-founder of the Matchmaking Institute, a book author and a professional matchmaker since 1999. 

NBC New York: Who are your millionaire clients? Why do they use a matchmaking service?

Flicker: Most of our male clients are between the ages of 35-60, have graduated from Ivy League Schools and have mastered their professions. We have clients that range from celebrities, CEOs, Doctors, Dentists, Attorneys and Inventors. What these men have is success and brains. What they don't have is TIME to find their partner.  Just like most people including myself, I go to professionals to have my hair done, my nails, my facials and so on.  The male clients hire me to weed out the garbage and find them a compatible match. Most people outsource everything else in their lives to experts, so why leave the most important part of your personal life to chance?

Clampitt: VIP Life male clients tend to range from late 20’s to mid 50’s, with varied occupations including CEOs, entrepreneurs, real estate developers, finance professionals, entertainment executives, doctors, lawyers, among others. Clients are often very busy and are ready to outsource their love life. Male clients tend to want it all, beauty, brains and a heart of gold.  However, sometimes the skills that make a man successful in business, such as being the aggressive top dog that leads all the meetings and demands attention, are less impressive on the dating scene.  A balanced conversation, curiosity about others, humor, flirtation and confidence with a touch of vulnerability are all key qualities in successful dating.

NBC New York: What are they looking for?

Flicker: Attractive, fun, polished, intelligent, classy ladies who posses “THE WHOLE PACKAGE” - beauty, brains and a body. Some men are searching for an athletic partner, or one who can travel, or a partner that has attended or has graduated from an Ivy League school. Some of our male clients have gone as far as to request a partner based on ethnicity from Asian, Latin, and American, etc.  Some of our female clients have requests such as height, age or ethnicity, and just recently I have had a female client request a male partner who plays a musical instrument.

Clampitt: Men are visual creatures to begin with and when a man has it all, his visual expectations can become even more particular.  But these days, looks alone don't cut it.  Men are looking for it all; looks, style, personality, intellectual compatibility, good nature and in the end; LOVE.  VIP Life works with the most discerning clients who are not willing to settle.

NBC New York: What are some tips on dating and keeping a millionaire?

Flicker: My advice to dating a millionaire is not to be intimidated by the word “millionaire”. Remember that if one has been chosen by me and I think you are worthy then you must be. Be truthful, Be sincere, be cool, calm and collected and most importantly, have fun and be yourself. Act like a lady and keep conversations on the first few dates light. Don't talk about failed past relationships or financial problems or politics. Remember that if it was meant to be than it is going to be.  The easy part to my job and to all that are in search of love is to remember that chemistry comes from the man above. You can't buy it. You can't create it. It just happens.  It is important never to give up and to continue to go out and date and date until you find your special someone and remember that life isn't supposed to be easy and where there is a will there is a way. Stay positive. Stay focused and enjoy the journey.

Clampitt: One of the biggest requests VIP Life gets from its male clients is that they want a sweet and genuine woman who is not angry or jaded.  Key tips on finding and keeping a millionaire are to be open, approachable, loving, fun, happy, flirtatious, curious, and light hearted especially in the beginning.  Once in a relationship, don't forget the beginning tips and never take the relationship for granted. Continue to have fun, feel sexy and remain loving. Love and business are two completely different skill sets.  A common misconception is that a millionaire has all the answers and knows exactly what he wants.  That is not always the case. We all have a desire to love and be loved and the path to a long-term healthy relationship is not always the obvious road.

NBC New York: Who are your female clients? What are the chances for an average looking gal to date a millionaire?

Flicker: Age 20-50. The chances are great. What is average for one guy could be spectacular to another.

Clampitt: From early 20’s to mid 40’s. They are beautiful and sophisticated women interested in having a long-term relationship with dynamic and attractive men that have proven their success within the business community, and these men want to meet women of exceptional beauty, grace and substantive intellect.

Beauty is to the successful man as money is to the attractive woman.  That being said, the more important question is why is marrying a millionaire so important? The less boundaries and rules you put on the game of life and love the more the world will open up with limitless possibilities.

NBC New York: What are your fees?

Flicker: Men pay $20,000 and up a year. The broad range is set based on one location or multiple locations throughout the county.  The women, if accepted pay nothing. We have full time recruiters working throughout the tri-state area searching for women that fit a certain criteria that MQI has established. After I interview the potential women, I use my gut instincts and decide whether or not that she fits the MQI criteria.

Clampitt: Fees start at $12,500 and up for men and membership is free for exceptional women who qualify to enter the database.

Bah humbug? No, not really. I met several singles over the holidays who dreaded this time of the year and were happy for a chance at a new beginning. January is the single largest month for new subscriptions to online dating services. When they discussed their frustrations with online dating, I asked why it wasn't working for them.

Their number one reason was FEAR. Yes, fear. Fear has caused many singles to lie about their age to fit into a search. This isn't new. So, when a 59 year old fairly attractive male told me he said he was 55 in his profile and he wasn't planning on changing that number, I asked him, "Will you still be 55 when you are 60?" He had to think about the answer.

Most of us look in the mirror and think we look younger than we are. We see photos on Facebook from high school and college friends and they always appear older than us, or at least we think so.

I continued my discussion with the almost 60-year old man. He was concerned that only older women would write to him. Maybe some will. When I convinced him that he didn't have to go out with every woman who wrote to him, especially those that didn't fit into his search, he eased up for a minute. When I was positive that he wasn't going to tell the truth about his age, I asked him how he'd feel if a woman lied about her age and said she was 5-10 years younger. Although it's a common trend in cyberdating, he said it's a turn-off to him.

Finally, I asked him to make a New Year's resolution to update his profile. He was not going to say he was 59 as fear of turning 60 made him panic. He did reluctantly agree to adding a "disclaimer" in his profile saying that he was really 59 but looked and felt much younger and wanted to fit into a search. I asked him to be honest about his age. He said he'd try it. After all, he hadn't been successful in lying on his online dating profile in the 3 years he has been on multiple Internet dating sites.

It's a New Year. 2009 was difficult for many with the economic turbulence. The desire for singles to couple-up is at an all time high. Wouldn't you want someone to be honest with you from the beginning? New Year's resolutions. Who needs them? We all do, if we want 2010 to be better than 2009.

Make it your New Year's resolution to live your life with authenticity -Online, offline, and where ever you may roam.

Dating Guide 101:

Dating is supposed to be a fun activity no matter what your age or experience with the opposite sex. That being said, here are tips to bear in mind if you are either coming out of a bad marriage and are in the market again, or are continuing to date till now.

Although there are no secret formulae to make your date a hit, there are, however, basics which are the same even today as they were when our grandparents, perhaps, were around. When it comes to dating, the three principles are: 1) relax, 2) pay attention and 3) be yourself. Some people may be setting the bar too high when it comes to dating.

Relax: This is of utmost importance. C'mon, it's not that serious. It's supposed to be FUN! Take a tip from the "younger" set and "just chill." Don't look at your date as the answer to all of your problems – your ills, shortcomings, things you didn't get as a child, things you did get and want to keep getting, or any other entitlements on your list. Rather, enjoy your date's company and look at the experience as a chance to make a new friend, or to be enlightened on a subject you knew little about before the date. Because at this stage of the game it means nothing, and therefore nothing should be read into the experience. Period.

Pay attention: From the first date to whatever transpires over the next few months. Remember, even though you're still "chilling," if you've gotten past the first few dates, it's time to show the other person you are sincere about getting to know them. Let's stop right here and think about that phrase (go back and say it out loud if you need to)...now ask yourself, did you really get to know the person during those first few dates, or were you concentrating on your needs again and what you want and expect? This is where many of us get into trouble – especially women.

Avoid tunnel-vision: 1) how much money he makes, 2) what kind of car he drives, 3) how does she dress, and keep an open mind about his/ her potential as a mate (if that's what you're looking for) based on what you've learned about him/ her already.

This openness can spare you from wasting time in dead-end relationships, because you'll find out all you need to know about the person simply by listening to them and observing their actions.

Be yourself: You’ve heard this before, but if you still find yourself acting weird on a date, then you've not been heeding to this warning. Keep in mind that the other person is nervous too; it's natural. Meeting a complete stranger (or if a friend introduced you, a once-removed-complete-stranger) can make anyone uncomfortable. By being relaxed and acting natural, you can help your date do the same.

Dating pet peeves
Now that we've got the principles of dating down, let me share my pet peeves.

Peeve No. 1 : The guy who has to tell me all his personal business in the first five minutes upon meeting him. This signals that he's impatient and wants to cut to whatever chase he has in mind. Usually, this man is scared to death of growing old alone and doesn't want to waste time.
What to do? Avoid this type like the plague and remember this: your 40-plus age doesn't negate the need to take your time.

Peeve No. 2: When a guy tries to impress with all the things he says he owns. But how do you know he's telling the truth? And besides, when you're over 40, you probably already have things and you're likely now looking for "substance."
What to do? Take it all with a grain of salt, be nice and when the date ends, rely on your gut to tell you your next move.

To be blunt, dating is a way to search the marketplace for someone who's compatible with your values, likes and dislikes. Things like who pays for dinner, whether you meet him at the restaurant or get picked up, or who calls whom first, is basically kids' stuff.

Do what you feel comfortable with and don't let convention (or your friends) rule. If it feels right it probably is, and if it doesn't feel right, follow your intuition, which at 40-plus should be nothing new.

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In a series of dating tips, US first Lady Michelle Obama has urged women to look beyond good looks and settle for a man with a good soul. “Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long and then it’s, “Who are you as a person? That’s the advice I would give to women - don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul,” said Michelle, who is married to President Barack Obama for the past 17 years. The 45-year-old mother of two warned women against marrying “somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole”, Glamour magazine reported. She also spoke of the qualities which drew her towards her husband. The couple, who have two daughters, met in 1989 while working in her native Chicago at a law firm. “He was always special, you know. And not special like, he’s gonna be important, he’s gonna be president. He was special in terms of his honesty, his sincerity, his compassion for other people,” said Michelle.

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"Married dating" classes promise to drag you and your partner back to the days when you were tearing each other"s clothes off and conversation consisted of more than "good night" at the end of each day.

Married dating classes attempt to school you back into being old romantics by using techniques including individual discussions with a consultant, tips on how to flirt with your partner again, how to dress to impress and how to surprise your partner like you used to.

"When you"re dating, everything is new and exciting," says Elect Club"s Haley Hill, who organises couples" classes. "But when a level of security is reached, we tend to slip into our comfort zone and that initial desire we felt for each other disappears."

The rise of married dating classes comes on the back of new research which states many couples are unable to divorce because of financial restraints.

According to the study by divorce firm Law Options, 60 per cent of married people are too scared to get a divorce because of the cost and more than a third would never leave their partner because of loans and shared mortgages.

For those who find time a problem, some class organisers such as Asian Dinner Club will not only send you out to dinner after your flirt class but will find a babysitter, book you a table and even get someone to vacuum while you are out so your boudoir is ready for romance when you return.

"The hardest part is actually getting people out of the house," says director Salima Manji, whose service will organise surprise "dates" throughout a six-month period and introduce them to other married couples at networking nights.

"During that time we will help you plan any important dates like birthdays and anniversaries and get your confidence back," she says. "Also, by introducing you to other married couples you take the burden of conversation off each other – we encourage you to make new friends and spend a little time apart."

Doctor Manoj Mistry, 35, and his wife, Sam, 34, from west London signed up for the Asian Dinner Club"s married dating classes after routine and work pressures had meant they had started to take each other for granted.

"I went on a “blind date” – with my husband," says Sam. "This happened after the club had given us both a bit of a style makeover so we looked sexier. Just arriving separately made it seem exciting again, like in the days before being married when you never fully know how the night will turn out."

Manoj was less enthusiastic to begin with but was soon convinced.

"As a guy I feel the responsibility to think of romantic things to do, so it was good to have someone come up with cool places to go out in London and do the “man” part of sorting out all the bookings."

These classes are a much less serious alternative to relationship counselling, says Elect Club"s Haley Hill (pictured). In her "Passion Reviver Package" you meet a consultant as a couple, then on your own to find out what you feel is causing the relationship to stall. Then follows "tailored relationship consulting", including style and fitness advice. Fed up of his spare tyre? Has her nagging put an end to sex? Get the consultant to let each other know. The consultancy then books you a sexy weekend away.

If all else fails, you can always put a gun to their heads.

Hill says: "The most popular part of our service is the Spy School weekend – it"s hard to see your wife in the same way after you have watched her shoot a revolver and learn body combat. It provides sexy new experiences to talk about over a romantic dinner that night."

MillionaireCupid Dating Network, the international leader in millionaires, wealthy men, high caliber singles online dating, today announces

the launch of a brand new niche dating site, datelawyer.com, a premium dating site for laywers, attorneys, as well as others who are interested in singles in the legal industry. Besides dating lawyers, members can also meet other successful, quality, high caliber singles as well. Just as the website mentioned: Every serious and quality single is welcome here. However, datelawyer.com hightlights lawyers and attorneys dating. Unlike on the main network MillionaireCupid, where members can meet CEOs, pro athletes, doctors, lawyers, investors, entrepreneurs, beauty queens, fitness models, and Hollywood celebrities, successful, excellent singles, and lots more.

 

To find a partner through online dating is not so easy, to date a lawyer can be much more difficult. The reason is: all lawyers are different people. Let's hear the voice of a single lawyer: I am a lawyer and I would hate for people not to date me just for my profession. That being said, if you can't handle the occassional "I'm really busy right now, can we talk later," then you may want to look to a different profession... Without doubt, all lawyer work a lot of hours. "Lawyers working 70-hour per wees don't have time for happy hours or any type of significant social life," said Elena, practicing attorney and founder of the lawyer dating website. "This can result in a high level of personal dissatisfaction." Lawyers have less time to spend on family and lovers. To help them find love more convneiently, MillionaireCupid dating network launched this lawyer dating website. With a short glance on google, we discovered that this is absolutely the first dating service which is dedicated to lawyers dating.

 

Take a short look at the features on this brand new dating site, live chat, webmail, free wink are the most frequently used tools for dating. Personal blogs, forums, albums ensure members on this site can have enough customzied content on their profiles. Photo, age, occcupation, education, income verification can make sure members on this site are real and credible. Various search tools made the search simple and easy. Dating tips on this site can be helpful to any members who are new to online dating.

 

DateLawyer.com is a premium online matchmaking site exclusively dedicated to lawyers, law students, and legal professionals. The site is open to all serious quality singles at this moment. Interested? Why not have a try?

 

Actress Hayden Panettiere has fuelled rumours of dating Entourage star Kevin Connolly.

The 20-year-old actress - who has previously dated her Heroes co-star Milo Ventimiglia and British TV presenter Steve Jones, was seen holding hands and enjoying an intimate conversation with Connelly at the HBO Emmy Awards.

"They were there to hang out together and stayed for hours until well after midnight,” Contactmusic quoted a source as telling gossip blogger Perez Hilton.

“Kevin only left Hayden's side towards the end of the night when he wanted to chat with someone at another table," the source added.

Panettiere was recently linked to millionaire Harry Morton, after the two were seen holding hands with just three weeks ago. "He still thought he was dating her last week and told friends all about her. Harry was bragging about getting her to do anything he wants," the source added.

 

You know, it's a secret dream that almost everyone would love to meet a millionaire and fall in love. Will it ever happen? For most people, it won't. But the truth is, if you do it, you can do it! According to a recent survey, the number of the wealthy singles are increasing. And the singles who are seeking millionaires and wealthy men are also increasing, especially young extremely beautiful women.

 

More and More women who are looking for their perfect wealthy millionaire matches are more willing to show themselves in the millionaire matchmaker clubs just like millionairecupid.com, wealthychats.com, etc. With little doubt, MillionaireCupid is the leading online dating community dedicated to helping wealthy and successful men and beautiful women meet the other half in a comfortable online environment. Charlie sheen has found a match here a few year ago. And a great number of new success stories are coming out one after another. That's the reason why millionairecupid is becoming the first choice for millionaire dating. "Finding love can be tough enough but finding a mate that's wealthy and beautiful can even be harder. That's the reason WealthyChats.com comes in", wealthychats.com is pursuing the romance between wealthy men and beautiful women. It provides some more special features dedicated to wealthy men and beautiful women dating just like certified wealthy men, photo & age verification, etc. It highlights the quality of their members. More people are willing to make them verified since verified members get more privileges and more opportunities here.

 

Probably everyone has ever dreamed of a love story with a millionaire or beautiful woman. However, you are unlikely to find many millionaires in your average suburban nightclub, cafe or restaurant. You need to strike out for new territories. The easiest way is to open your computer and start a millionaire match search on the internet. The world is small once you make your search online.

 

Most of wealthy men and successful singles have been busy at their businesses, they don't have enough time to find their loves via conventional dating style. Thus, they prefer quality millionaire dating clubs. CEOs, celebrities and many more have been joining millionaire dating club. Will you be the next one?

 

It was Saturday night. I poured another glass of wine for myself and tucked in to my takeaway for one. Absent mindedly flicking through the tv channels, mixed feelings of boredom, loneliness and sheer terror washed over me. After just four years of marriage, I was on my own again. And with the big 40 around the corner, I wasn't looking forward to being 'back on the market' one little bit. Me and my ex had met through work. I was his boss. He was younger than me. There was a kind of ego power trip going on when we got married. It was fun. Adventurous. I felt in control, like I was his mistress. We'd met in March and were married by that December with a baby on the way. But the spark I'd mistaken for love was nothing more than excitement. It soon vanished and we both knew we'd rushed into things.

Four years later, I was a 39 year old single mum with very few single friends to go out with 'on the pull'. And despite the wonderful world of cosmetics, I wasn't the spring chicken I used to be. I certainly couldn't compete with the silky smooth, cellulite free species of half naked girls who thought a stretch mark was something you got in an over used pair of tights. Of course, I had my six year old boy, Matthew, to keep me busy. But you soon get fed up with night after night sat in on your own with nothing but Thomas the Tank Engine for company. My days of clubbing were over. I needed to meet single men in a more suitable fashion, in a way that didn't leave me looking desperate like Jennifer Saunders' sad character in Ab Fab. I was actually a very sociable and outgoing person, spending all day with all sorts of people as a fully qualified nurse. Being on my own scared me more than the thought of a date with strangers. I just needed to meet them in the first place. "Why don't you give the personals column in the local paper a go?" suggested a friend one day. "No way!" I laughed. "That's so sad!" The next day I went out and bought a local paper, turned straight to the personals section and read the ads with curiosity. I decided it wasn't that bad. I'd give it a go. 'Bubbly blonde looking for friendship. Maybe more.' It was totally unoriginal but I was new to this. It was still good enough to get several messages left in my voice mail box which I collected that weekend. Most sounded duller than a party political broadcast. But one was OK. His name was Steve and he lived pretty nearby. I liked his voice and the fact that he described himself as someone who didn't take life too seriously. I was a sucker for a sense of humour. That first date was terrifying. But very exciting. I felt like a school kid all over again. We met a few times and got on fantastically. But there was something missing. That spark, that little something extra. We both realised that we were destined to be best mates...but not lovers. Despite the lack of romance, I was determined not to class it as a failure. It was a success. I'd had a few nights out, which beat Saturday night telly hands down. And I'd made a new friend. After that...I was hooked! My second date in comparison, really was a disaster. I sat in my car on the beach where we'd agreed to meet. He was rallying his beach buggy up and down on the sand. I waited for the hunk of a man who'd replied to my latest ad to drive over and say hi. I had a picture of him that he'd posted to me, and couldn't wait to meet him in the flesh - he looked gorgeous! And here he was, racing on the beach like a character from Baywatch. I dreamed of how I wanted the next hour to go and drifted off into my own world of romance and sex Gods. "Hello," came a shrill voice at the car window, suddenly, making me jump. "You must be Shelley. I'm Paul." He smiled a big smile, revealing the best advert for going to the dentist I'd ever seen. He must have had two teeth if he had any at all! I burst out laughing hysterically, couldn't keep a straight face. He looked more like Paul Daniels than Paul the hunk I was expecting! Not only did he have the misfortune of no teeth and of looking nothing like the picture he'd sent me, which must have been easily twenty years old, but he was also cursed with the foulest of breath and had apparently had a complete personality bypass operation. Three hours later he was still talking about engineering over the same glass of orange juice. I wondered if the edge of my wine glass was sharp enough to cut my wrists. Sadly for me, that wasn't the last nightmare date. It was the first of many. But as I became more experienced and confident, the nightmare dates began to split up into sub categories. There were the nightmare boring dates, the nightmare pervert dates, and the nightmare stalker dates. At first, I often felt too mean or bad to say 'no thanks, not for me' as soon as I knew a man wasn't right for me. I'd endure painful nights out, even go on second dates with men I wouldn't have looked once at in the street. But several 'bored to tears' dates later, I became much better and stronger at saying 'no thanks'. But it was the men who wouldn't take 'no' for an answer who were the worst...and the scariest. One man seemed perfect to start with. He was kind, caring, attentive. I received flowers delivered to my door, loving text messages, romantic meals. We had three dates in total. But I knew deep down he just wasn't my Mr Right, there was something about him but I didn't know what. After I told him, he changed completely, showed his true colours. I started getting viscous, evil text and phone messages, saying that I was an evil bitch who didn't deserve to be happy. He parked up outside my house for two days straight in his van. Never budged. He sent a text saying he knew where my mother lived and that he'd pay her a visit. I was terrified. "If I ever see you again I'm going straight to the Police...you freak!" I screamed down the phone before hanging up. I never saw him again. After that date, I gave it a rest for a few months. But the boredom soon crept back. And even a rubbish date seemed more appealing than a lonely night in on my own. I turned to text dating. You submitted your post code and got texts from people in your area, looking for a date. It was a lot more successful than the paper for actually getting out and meeting people. I must have had ten dates in three or four months. People were braver with the text dating. No pics, no voices. The texts could often be very saucy. The danger was that each date was a totally blind date which had its obvious pitfalls. But there was an extra excitement too. Not knowing what to expect. I always tried to be as careful as possible, arranging dates in public places and letting a friend know where I was going. I'd often turn up early for the date and case the joint. Once I turned up for a date and recognised the man I was supposed to be meeting from his description of what he was wearing. I was horrified. He looked more like 68 than 38. I felt slightly ashamed as I kept on walking right past him and straight back to the car! The text dating produced a lot of dates, but no success. And an enormous phone bill. I stared in horror at my mobile bill for £350 one month. I soon stopped text dating after that. "I'm on the net and having some great results," said Steve, the guy I'd met on my first ever date. "Give it a go." He recommended a few dating sites and I logged on, built my profiles and uploaded my pics. He was right. The internet was a great way of meeting people. It was a simple case of there being so many profiles for both men and women to look at and email. It was almost overwhelming. In my first weekend on 'U Date', I got 33 messages! And from guys of all ages. The oldest was in his seventies, looking for a younger woman for a bit of no strings action. I laughed at the thought of seeing him naked. Thank God he didn't send me any pictures. Unlike so many other guys - who seemed to think that emailing me a disgusting photograph of their genitalia was all that they'd need to secure a hot night of passion with me at the nearest hotel! Even gorgeous young lads as young as 19 and 20, desperate to get laid by a sexy older woman and report their conquest back to their pals, were convinced that a video of them masturbating would have me flocking to their bedrooms and stripping off. If I was supposed to be impressed, it wasn't working. If I was supposed to laugh until almost wetting myself, it was working a treat.   The other predator on these sites, as I discovered the hard way, was the married man. Twice, I met up with men who seemed perfect in every way, only to discover they had a wife and kids. One man really wooed me, picking me up in his Porsche and whisking me off to a luxury resort for the weekend. I fell for his charms and was convinced I'd found Mr Right. But the second we'd slept together, he broke my heart. "You're not for me," he said coldly, "but if you want to meet up regularly just for sex then that's fine." I was gobsmacked. I felt so used, so dirty. I'd never had a one night stand in all my life. Now, at 40, my record had been shattered. "Get over yourself you creep," I yelled. "Who the hell do you think you are?" It became painfully obvious that despite the high numbers of men on these websites, more than half of them were after only one thing...and it certainly wasn't love or romance. I couldn't trust the pictures they posted as their own. I couldn't trust their description of themselves as honest, caring, single men looking for a serious relationship. And I couldn't trust myself not to fall for it again and again. 'Genuine' was a word used all too often on these profiles. But in reality, few actually were remotely genuine. But when you're lonely, a little affection and a bit of flattery, plus a bottle of wine can get a girl into situations that you wouldn't normally let happen. One guy described himself as tall, muscular, handsome and Italian. He turned out to be 5ft 3" and had the build of the man off the Mr Muscle ads! There was more 'Italian' in my PVC handbag. Another man from Bristol couldn't keep his hands off me from the other side of the table in the restaurant. "You're gorgeous," he letched. "All my Christmas's have come at once. You're my dream woman." He made me feel sick. He gave me a lift home but when I turned down his offer of meeting again, he wouldn't let me out the car! It was funny at first, but an hour later I was still persuading him to let me out as he begged me to give him an other chance. I was genuinely terrified as I sat there, wondering what the hell I'd got myself into this time. After two years of playing the dating game, I've earned the title 'Ice Maiden' from my friends. They think my problem is that I'm too fussy. But the truth is I'm an old romantic, and with one failed marriage to look back on, I'd rather wait for Mr Right than settle for Mr Right Now! I don't think I'm asking for too much. My dream man is no different to any other woman's. Tall, dark, handsome, muscular, intelligent, independent, kind, loving, and with a great sense of humour! My latest adventure is speed dating. It's definitely a good way of meeting people, but it comes with no guarantees! I've had some great nights out, but sadly they're far out numbered by the amount of awful nights I've suffered. >From being bored to death, to having men not taking no for an answer, >to being practically stalked. I've had love letters, proposals, churches booked for the big day after one date! Flowers left at the door, boxes of chocolates and bottles of wine...even a kebab and chips from the man up the road in the chip shop! But for all the fun, it's very hard work being single at my age. Especially when some men won't look at your son as part of the package but more like unwanted baggage. I'm at the stage now where I don't even think I'll meet Mr right through the internet or any other dating method. But the truth is I'm addicted. I've tried refraining from dating in the past but it doesn't take too many nights in on your own for the dating to look like a good idea again. I know I'm not the only one, there must be thousands of us out there looking for someone with that bit of something extra. Now, two years of dating later and still alone, I've had enough disaster dates to put most women off the idea for life. I don't know if dating has become a void filler or a lifeline for me, but it's certainly an addiction. And as more and more dating possibilities and services spring up, I can see that loneliness is nothing if not big business. Ideally I'd like to meet a man in a more natural way. The websites are too clinical, too deliberate. There's no element of romantically bumping into a stranger, eyes meeting across a crowded room. The dating sites, text dating and even speed dating are all... to finding love, what IVF is to making babies! Well, I've got to go now and get ready...I've got a date tonight!

 

Jealousy is often a sign that the man cares for a woman. He cherishes her and wants to protect her, that's why he becomes jealous of a few things and a few people. But what happens when those "few" things and people get more and more? That's the time that jealousy is not productive anymore.

As the woman in the relationship, you need to know some of the concrete signs that you can watch out for to determine if your millionaire match is not the "gentleman" he is setting out to be:

1. Too much determination to spend more and more time with you. This is not a bad thing, in itself. I mean, who wouldn't want to spend their time with a great woman like you? However, alarm bells should start ringing in your head if he insists on spending more and more time with you that it eats up your time with your buddies and friends offline. He insists on chatting with you right after work, like if your work stops at 5, he'll be at the chatroom or email you at the exact dot. He'll ask you why you were late and who you were with, then at what time did you exactly get out of work, and how much time you spent on travel. In short, he's monitoring out your social activities. By making sure that you know he's waiting will pressure you to go back home ASAP and go online with him.

2. Too much interest with your social life. He would insist on knowing each and everyone of your friends and family members. If he sees you chatting with someone you did not introduce to him, or catches you talking with someone else, then he's get into irrational anger and demand that you tell him who you were chatting or talking to. Why does he do this? To put it simply, he's worried that you'll dump him for that "guy" on the phone or chatroom. Again, he doesn't think that he deserves to be loved, so he would always wonder why you would love him and he will be constantly afraid that you'll leave him for a better man. He would also say how each friend is a bad influence to you, and you'd do better to dump them and spend more time with him.

3. Too much involvement with what you wear. Admit it, as women, we love to make a fashion statement. We always try to look our very best when we go out, right? Even if we're only meeting someone through the web cam. This is where you can usually find out first if he's possessive and/ or jealous. How? He will try to influence you and the way you dress. He will insist that you change into something else if he sees you wearing a particular set of clothes. He will insist that you can't wear certain shorts, skirts, and your jeans, and will insist that you let him know all of the outfits that you will wear. If this happens, then tell your guy gently, that you are comfortable with your clothes and you will wear what you want and he'll have to live with it. But again, say this gently, so as not to arouse an even bigger monster inside him: anger. He will also start attacking your self-esteem little by little, making criticisms on how you look in certain outfits, and then telling you that you should feel lucky that a girl like you has a millionaire match like him. Do not believe this. You are an extremely beautiful woman inside and out, and he's the one who's lucky that he has you.

It is always great for women to feel loved and wanted, and a little bit of jealous actions will be an indication. However, it has to have its limits and should be kept in control.

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Green Bay, US, July 1, 2009. Over 71% of women who visit websites like WealthyChats.com for a bit of fun do not see online flirting as cheating and more than 72% of men share the same opinion.
A recent survey carried out by flirting dating site, collected more than 5,400 responses from men and women who currently have a spouse or a full time partner. The fact that over 70% of both males and females answered 'No' to the question 'Would you consider flirting online as cheating?' would suggest a shift in public perception.
With the rise in popularity of introduction agencies and online dating websites came the inevitable birth of casual dating for people looking to flirt and have fun on the net, people whose aim was not to find a soulmate with a view to getting married but only to make new friends and have fun along the way. A more relaxed approach to relationships is now growing stronger.
Views on online dating have changed over the past decade and casual dating websites are now popular amongst the British. Just as many dedicate time to watching TV, playing console games and browsing the web, a great number of people are now spending time on online flirting websites. The future of online dating is yet to be decided but it is safe to say that an increasing number of British men and women, currently in a relationship, regard their online chats and flirting sessions as a fun and harmless way to spend their spare time.

June 25, 2009 will go down in history as the day an American Icon took his last breath.

As I watch the media regurgitating over and over the news of the untimely, unfortunate and very unnecessary demise of Michael Jackson, with an occasional flash to the suffering and death of Farah Fawcett, it takes me back many years to a specialized forensic school where daily we were given the challenge of "profiling" someone in the news. I can't help but profile Michael and the personality that resulted in his death. At the same time I am quite saddened; not only in sympathy with the millions of mourners, but by the depth of the real truth and the knowledge that on a much less famed scale millions will bury family and friends for the very same reason. I feel a responsibility to share truth, to give the uninformed a "heads up", a "profile" of what killed Michael Jackson. Farah's death is a whole different story for a whole different but no less important article, but Michaels passing can serve to save the lives of the millions that are on their way to join him in death because his personality is the personality of many millions. Michael won't be giving live concerts but in death he can remain an icon nevertheless…..

What really killed Michael Jackson?

The toxicology report is not yet in because Michael's autopsy is only now being scheduled, but that matters not. What matters is the knowledge that a human heart is designed to operate much longer than 50 years unless impeded in some way. We know Michael would have had the best of the best in modern medical care and heart disease would have been known and attended. I suspect a long term habit of over medication, and profiling his reclusive personality substantiates that possibility in my mind. If this is determined to be the case, which I suspect it will be, some "in the know" would say certain suicide, and although correct, many would fail to understand. Some would say Michael's blood is on the hands of the many paid and personal enablers, and they would also be right. Others would say it was modern medicine and pharmaceuticals, and yet others would declare the fault lies with society. All would be correct. In hopes of keeping the message in Michaels death from fading, providing an opportunity that I think he would take if he could, to save millions of lives, those of your friends, family and perhaps even yours, let me explain.

It all began many years ago, in fact about the beginning of time. Man has eternally searched for ways to escape from his own mind, ways to depress anxiety and ways to stimulate from the depths of depression. Ways to achieve balance between the extremism of the two. Throughout history man has searched and experimented with alcohol and virtually every form of substance in a quest for that miracle panacea to help him avoid dealing with the stress of life; a way to "feel good". We have witnessed an era when multiple thousands decided to "escape reality" by sucking down marijuana as a full time occupation. We are now in an era when many turn to illicit drugs to make it through the day. On the other side of this eternal search we have witnessed the development  of multiple mental health counseling models from Freud to fraud, which may be one and the same, and throughout these many years and developments, we have failed to find that panacea.

The 20^th century revolution in medicine ushered in a new hope and what many believed would be the "fix". When valium came along it seemed the answer to our eternal quest, but the mind has a unique way of reaching out with new symptoms at any attempt to avoid self responsibility. From valium we have gone on to develop innumerable chemicals to sedate the mind, to block the reality of our daily demons, to escape from ourselves, our daily stressors or our unhappy lives. I would like to say that believers in the Word are immune to this eternal search and intense need for a way to blunt reality, but unfortunately they suffer even greater stress for various reasons that are beyond the scope of this article to discuss. Suffice it to say that the Church is failing in its responsibility to teach the entire Word, and the congregation fails to follow the very instructions intended to keep them mentally healthy.  Believers and non-believers alike suffer the stress of being human.

I imagine we will find that Michael Jackson's untimely demise was ultimately fed by this eternal quest for a way to deal with is chronic stress, from failure to take control of his own mind and allow logic to reign over emotion. You see it is illogical (an emotional act) to abuse medication when the warnings are clear. Michael was witness to the death of Anna Nicole Smith from overdose, he was married to Elvis's daughter, he had knowledge and notice and he ignored the warning. Perhaps it was a death wish, perhaps simply addiction which is my suspicion, but we will never truly know the answer to that. He differs from Elvis, the king of rock only in the fact that he lived 8 years longer. While life for the average human is stressful, being the "King" understandably adds a few degrees of stress. Michael awoke every morning and went to sleep every night a victim of his fame, and at great mental cost which led to his physical demise. We witnessed over his last years, through the child molestation trials and financial failure, the demise of Michael Jackson. We witnessed a complete transformation from the innocence of "I'll be there" to a figure we came to know as "whacko Jacko". His personal transformation from the King of Pop to Whacko, was certainly the result of his emotional distress, perhaps from his inability to find himself in adulthood, but his death can be directly attributed to his failure to take control of that stress, and to those that enabled him.

So who really killed Michael Jackson?

Regressing for a moment to the first paragraph of this article, we discussed that fact that man has searched for a magic pill to control stress since time began. Even though we have yet to find it, human greed combined with a true desire to advance medicine have provided a deadly cocktail for those who choose to use and abuse it, but still the stress lingers waiting for us to take responsibility, to face our demons. I would first and foremost lay the blood of Michaels death on the "powers that be", on the government and States that permit the pharmaceutical companies to advertise to an unwitting public that the latest dangerous chemical is the answer to all problems, and to lavish rewards on the doctors for prescribing them. This greed for the almighty dollar with carefully orchestrated advertising has turned the American people into a nation of Sheople, looking to medicine to solve all their problems, never mind personal responsibility.

Next I would have to lay Michaels blood on those who enabled him, they too acted out of greed. The high paid medical "professionals" knew the dangers, they knew right from wrong but they didn't just say no. Lastly, I would have to submit that none of this would have mattered and Michael would likely be alive today if he had taken responsibility for managing his stress without chemicals.

Michael paid the ultimate price because the government chooses to ignore the millions that perish from dangerous drugs, in favor of pursuing those that offer natural solutions, those that threaten drug profits. He paid the ultimate price because of the greed of pharmaceutical companies that work to convince that dangerous drugs are the first choice for all human ills, and due to the irresponsibility and greed of the very enablers that he undoubtedly paid very well to help him kill himself. Michaels death was by his own hand, facilitated by a very broken society. Michael has been exonerated, he has paid the ultimate price for irresponsibility. If we are to cast blame on his enablers, let us cast it fairly and levy charges against all the above.

And the Sheople will continue to perish

I offer these thoughts for the many millions that feel they cannot make it through the day without drugs to blunt reality, and mostly for the few that might read and choose not to perish due to their own irresponsibility. As long as we remain a nation of followers, believing in science to deliver us from self responsibility, we will continue to perish unnecessarily. The medication promised to deliver us, only dilates brains, suppresses logic and converts the masses into a writhing, squirming mass of emotion, a volatile recipe for disaster. Half of our cars are driven by medicated drivers and we have road rage, we have adults walking into schools slaughtering the innocent. Half of our families are medicated and we have mass family dysfunction, turning out dysfunctional children into a dysfunctional medicated world. For believers, we see in Genesis what happens when we subrogate logic to emotion; it was certainly not a logical act that started the downward spiral in which we find humanity today, and it is the failure to walk in logic that continues to destroy millions. It is not logical to strap a bomb to a child and send him into a crowd to die, it is not logical to believe this is what God desires for the children he created. Remember Michael, and remember the dangers lurking beneath the high priced pharmaceutical ad's, these chemicals do little more than destroy logic. If you are one of the millions that are crying one minute and a raving lunatic the next, change your diet, stop with sugar free chemicals and processed junk, and eat wholesome natural foods. Your hormones will balance as will your temperament. Help those you care about to seek help in dealing with stress and to cast off the daily medications. Stop setting a medicated example for your children and teach them logic and self responsibility, for you are setting them on the path for the rest of their life. Find safe, natural methods of dealing with your stress before it deals you that last hand. Remember that stress is a "state of mind" and that state can be changed by you, or you can allow it to consume you, that is a choice. Remember that your past does not dictate your future, how you handled the stress of life yesterday does not dictate the manner in which you have to deal with it tomorrow. Realize that even though chemicals may be helpful at times, long term use is what happened to Michael and don't let that happen to you. If you suffer chronic pain and you were not "hit by a truck", it is probably just stress and it is probably in your best interest to stay away from the doctor who has only medication to offer. Let logic reign, if you cannot avoid influence by slick television ad's promising to take all your problems away, drop kick the sucker out the back door and grab a good book on nutrition, better yet grab a Bible and look for instructions….

Remember Michael, he either passed from us leaving only his music, or in death he can remain an icon to set millions of sheople free from slick drug advertisements and the resulting drug dependency. Which will he be to you?

Reference: Dr. Eric Carter holds a　PhD in behavioral psychology, and multiple awards, certificates and diplomas in alternative medicine modalities. He currently serves as the President of the World Organization of Natural Medicine Practitioners

 

A brooklyn, NY man has sued match.com for $5 million, accusing the most popular online dating website of fraud for posting profiles of eligible singles who can't be reached at all.

According to Sean McGinn, who is 37, he hated meeting women in bars, although it may be a nice choice for some guys to meet new singles. Online dating seemed the right and nice option for him. So he carefully constructed his profile, worked hard to include all his great characters in the profile. Let's see: "Last Reads" .... Eat, Pray, Love, I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell, Love in the Time of Cholera. "Likes" ... Leather jackets, the movie Cocktail, Caribbean steel-drum music, oh! And Lisa Kudrow in The Comeback! "Smoking?" ... No way! "Interests" .... NO DRAMA.

Things were not going well for him. All the women he tried to contact got back to him. So he made some adjustment and improved his profile: "Interests" ... Wine tasting! "Pets I Like" ... Lions! Ha ha! "Body Type" ... Average Cuddly, but Toned! "Turn Offs" ... Skinny dipping. "Turn Ons" ... Thunderstorms. Again, he got no response after a long long waiting. Finally, he got the result:  None of the women he was contacting were real. And his emails might not be read at all! He had been sending hundreds of carefully crafted, artfully capitalized messages into space. He was humiliated and fooled by the dating site at the very beginning. And he paid for nothing. Then Sean McGinn got mad. Really mad. And called his lawyer.

This dating story turns out to be a mess. It's not proper to say someone is right, while another one is wrong. But we should keep an deep eye on the problems. Match.com is one of the largest international dating site. But is it the best dating site for everybody? On match.com, unsubscribers (free members) can do nothing. They can't send emails, and they can't even read emails from other members. In their own words: "if you want to email, if you want to read email, you must subscribe. If you don't subscribe, you can do nothing". When you send an email to another member, you don't know whether your email will be read. If you want to know that, you need to subscribe more.

Are all the dating services working this way? Of course not. If you don't like the 100% free dating sites just because of their profiles with hookers and frauds, you are still able to find a number of dating sites which don't restrict messages. MillionaireCupid.com is one of them. Members can join them for free. But only paying members can initiate email messages. Free members, on this site, can view and reply to emails without subscribe. Compared with the paying to read emails on match.com, it's more humanized. At least, the members you contacted has the ability to read your emails and reply to you without restriction. Sounds much better? Actually it's easy to find other sites with similar features.

As to online dating, a correct choice at the very beginning is very important. There is no need to trust the words which dating site is the biggest or the largest... just like you don't need to marry the more beautiful or the most handsome, you just need the dating site that works for you. Online daters, make your choice wise!

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The trend of many urban female Chinese has within the past several years manifested a preference to wait it out for "Mr. Right" to arrive and not subscribe to the age honored tradition of early marriage and children in order to meet parental and social expectations. What are all these Chinese women doing with their time and how are they expending their feminine energy and traditional nesting instinct if not in pursuit of Chinese men? At least one source seems to have the answer to this social phenomenon and apparent Westernization of Chinese women. seekwealthy.com, a fast growing online resource for Western men wanting to connect with Asian women for friendship and marriage, has recently seen a significant spike in registration from ladies in major Chinese cities…Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou.

Western men have long considered Asian women ideal companions and superlative wives because of their unique appeal and traditional values. Now the sense of admiration seems to be returned as Chinese women are joining virtual communities and marriage websites in droves in their pursuit of Mr. Right in the form of a Western male.

Statistics from seekwealthy.com seem to support the fact that even though Chinese women may be prone to selectivity when choosing a mate, many seem to prefer the company of Western men as evidenced by the increasing number of Chinese women actively seeking love and romance online from the West. Embracing Western men and values has been a trend among women in China for the past decade at least. This follows a development that combines traditional Asian values with a movement towards Westernization for the 456 million Chinese women of marriage age, outnumbered by a mere 3% or just over 16 million males. According to a recent American study, 45.3 percent of Chinese women oppose giving up a career for a family life, 72 percent of female executives believe being a 'career lady' does not contradict being a 'family woman, 51 percent of female professionals believe they can balance their careers and their family lives and 88 percent of consider themselves good in handling their personal relationships

The adaptation of these Western values mixed with solid traditional beliefs creates a profound and very attractive package for a Western man seeking compatibility with an Asian woman and vice versa. In the end it could be the dawn of a brave new cross-cultural world.

OPW -- June 15 -- I asked Match.com for a statement regarding the McGinn suit where Match is accused of 'defrauding customers who paid for the dating service by failing to disclose that it lumps together current subscribers and canceled members and displays them as the same.' The CEO of Match, Greg Blatt, states...  "Match.com's continued success depends upon the success of our members in making online connections and turning them into meaningful relationships offline.  The allegation that we would deceive our subscribers by encouraging them to connect with inactive members therefore makes no sense and is contradicted by our 14-year record and the hundreds of thousands of members who find someone special on Match.com every year.  We understand that finding romance, offline or online, can at times be emotional and personal, and we wish Mr. McGinn well in his search.  But his lawsuit is without merit, and we will defend it vigorously."

If you are a single woman looking for a date that you have many options for being you. First you must know that in the world of online dating women have the upper hand. Many more men use the services online dating than women means that women have a much better choice.

When you start dating it is important to be realistic about what you want to leave. Many links are doomed before they even begin, because the expectations of women, and this can lead to years of failure.

As women, it is important that you do not try to rush things or you can turn off your dating partner (this advice applies to men). In the world of meetings, it is better to stay light and casual at first. Give things a few weeks and probably months before trying to get more serious with your significant other.

Looking for the right dating service online is easy. All you have to do is read some comments, and then you are away. The popular appears again and again to let you know what Web sites the most popular and successful.

Your profile is the most important part of your online dating success. You can tell immediately if someone is really interested in you, and not just your photo. There are many dating services on men who refuse to pay for a subscription, and they just send free messages to hundreds of women every day, just because they like their photo.

Sending a photo will allow you to improve your strike rate. If you have a photo on your profile, you will receive up to 20 times more messages if you do not. When you receive multiple messages, you'll have a much better choice of singles, which means you'll have more chance of achieving your perfect match.

 

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If you have used a dating site in the past, it is likely you have come across a dating site scammer at some point. If you haven't, you are either very lucky or maybe they were not uncovered by you at the time. You may even have been conned into sending a scammer hundreds or thousands of hard earned dollars, never hearing from them again.

A dating site scammer is a person who may contact you in order to obtain money. They will use a false name, age, country of birth, occupation and most cunningly, they will have a misleading purpose for contacting you. They will appear sweet, caring and in-need of your help.

Dating sites are very prone to dating site scammers. Generally they will prey on people who are prepared to "open their heart" to the scammer, often being "sucked into" the scammers lie. The ultimate goal of their lies is to receive money from you - often in large quantities.

As the operator of the dating site Pricelesspartner.com, I have come across every story, every username, every lie that a scammer could possibly think of. I thought it would be useful to share my knowledge of dating site scammers and to write a "How To Avoid" guide to dating site scammers in the hope that it may save you both time, possibly money and give you a more enjoyable online experience on dating sites.

In no particular order, here is a list of what to look out for when dating online.

The Email Address

From my experience, the most popular email service used by dating site scammers is Yahoo! Mail. At present very few scammers use Hotmail or Gmail, although they are both not immune from being used as scamming email addresses.

The email address will often contain a username similar to their registered dating site username. See below.

The Username

The next most obvious sign of a dating site scammer will be his or her username.

Generally, their username will consist of love related or relationship related terms. Common terms include 'luv' or 'love' or 'real' in combination with a common generic name such as 'Bob' or 'Jane' or 'Jennifer' etc.

Often the username will also contain a string of numbers at the end, perhaps helping them exhaust a range of memberships or registrations with a site. For example 'Bob4real' may have '001' at the end.

Here is a tiny sample of random usernames I have rejected:

Jennifer4real

Vivian001

Bobtrueluv

Luv4real

Jennifer_brown03

Lovely2000

Honest005

God_fearing_001

plus thousands of variations of the above, and more.

The Description

The personality description used by the dating site scammer is probably the biggest giveaway and sometimes the most humorous (when you have gone through thousands of profile registrations like I have, you need to have the odd giggle here and there).

Most commonly, the dating site scammer will use the following phrases or word combinations in their personality description:

They either live in a common scamming country or region (Nigeria, Senegal, and Russia) or they will state they were originally born in the USA, London, Australia etc and are currently living in Nigeria, Senegal, and Russia etc.

They will start a sentence with "Am" eg. "Am Jennifer Smith by name…"

States they are god fearing, or have the fear of god in them.

The dating site scammer will describe themselves as "real, honest, sincere, loving, careing (often spelt like that), genuine".

They will often tell you about their tragic life story or history. Often this will include the death of both parents at an early age, they are recently widowed, they have a sick child or a child has died.

In combination with their life story, the dating site scammer may also claim to do saint-like activities such as work with disabled people and students, work for a charity such as UNICEF, or even work for the United Nations.

Alternatively, some dating site scammers (usually from Russia) are very sexual in nature and desire to be loved and cared for by you and to please your every desire, despite only having read your profile for 5 minutes.

The Photo

The photo used by a dating site scammer is often very professional - almost too professional. Photos will be very clear and appear to be a "pose" by a professional model. Alternatively, many male scammers from African countries will send a passport-like photo of themselves. It will be very grainy and somewhat aged.

Some photos may also appear to be everyday snaps, but are very tiny - almost thumbnail in appearance.

The Message

The message sent to you by a dating site scammer is almost always your first contact with them.

In most cases, the message is likely to be very self contained and not just a simple "Hi, want to chat?". It will include many of the keywords and phrases used in their personality description (see above) and will often request you contact them directly via their email address or to add them directly to MSN or your computer's Instant Messenger.

A good example of a typical message would be similar to the following:

Hello, am Jennifer Smith by name, am 25 years old,from USA but currently living in Lagos,Nigeria I got my first Degree from Greemwich university, London, and am currently working for Unicef. am real, loving, faithful careing lady who is god fearing and would like to talk to you more. Please contact me on emailaddress@email or add my name to your MSN. Love Jennifer xxoo

So, what do I do if I think I have found a scammer?

If you believe the person contacting you fits the descriptions listed above, do the following three things:

Report the scammer to the dating site operator. On MillionaireCupid.com, you can do this by clicking the 'report abuse' button on the profile, or simply the contact link on the top navigation bar. They will investigate them.

If the scammer has listed their email address in their message to you, contact the scammer's email provider. In many cases this will be a free email service such as Yahoo! Mail or Hotmail. If possible, send them a copy of the message sent to you by the scammer, including the scammers email address.

Ignore them. After completing the above steps, delete their message to you immediately. You should not continue corresponding with them and under no circumstances give them any personal information such as your email address or phone number.

Summer love can be fun but also stressful if you have a habit of sabatoging relationships. The pattern of crash and burn dating is hard to break because your subconscious mind tends to draw you to the same situations and people again and again. Here are some tips to make your summer romance last until the air grows chilly in the fall and hopefully transform into a long-lasting relationship.

 1. Do the opposite. If you are in a new relationship, do not automatically fall into the same patterns that did not work for you in the past. No matter how strong the pull, try to resist the common behaviors that drove a person away before and take a risk by acting against your fears. You may find that a new approach is both beneficial and freeing in keeping the other person interested.

2. Hold on Loosely. Remember that old song from the eighties? Think of holding a pen in your hand. If you grasp it too tightly your writing will look forced and too lose will make it sloppy. When you were just beginning to use the pencil, you had to find that sweet spot where you hand held it just right. Find that balance in your relationship. Do not force love or rebel against holding love at all. There is an energy when there is just a little bit of tension to keep both parties interested that keeps the fire burning between the two of you.

3. Keep your current life. Don't blow off your friends to completely dive into your new relationship. When someone new arrives, your social calendar does change. Your true friends can help you keep your feelings in check because they truly care about you. Your partner will find it attractive that you have another life besides what he or she offers you. Nothing puts more pressure on a relationship than the other person revolving their whole life around you when they do not even know you yet.

4. Take it slow. If you are meant to be together, there is a whole lifetime to spend together. So many relationships end too soon because one or both people try to squeeze the evolution of an entire relationship in one week. Don't jump in with both feet because you are only seeing the surface of the other person. Be patient and allow the romance to take its natural course.

5. Play Big. Sometimes when you really want a relationship and someone sails into your life, you immediately put them on a pedastal as the savior to your lonely existence. By doing this, you automatically put them above you and place yourself in a mental state of trying to earn their love. When you play small, the other person subconsciously feels your inferiority and then gets turned off. They won't be able to put their finger on it, but all they want to do is get away from you. If you come from a place of "I am the prize," the other person will feel like they are the lucky ones and treat you like a prince or princess. You will get the love you really deserve.

 

 

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